Blogging Queens, a.k.a. My 3 Words for 2010

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I was inspired by Chris Brogan’s post today, My 3 Words for 2010. I think it’s a great way to summarize your goals, mission and vision for the coming year. The year 2009 was a wild ride. I spoke at several conferences, and hosted Type-A Mom Conference. I launched Momtent and I am organizing a blogging industry organization. I introduced social buzz ad campaigns on Type-A Mom and Foodie Mama. I launched Type-A Mom Magazine. It was a busy year. Too busy (see word #2 below).

For 2010, I would like to see the hard work start to pay dividends. I would like to focus more on results. I want to see ventures that don’t just have a mission, but accomplish it. I would like to see 2010 be the year (for all of us) of harvesting the ripe results of our efforts.

My 3 Words: Queens, Focus, Freedom

December for me was a forced sabbatical. We traveled to Disney World at the beginning of the month, I was sick for three weeks, and then we lost power at home twice (once for three days, which forced us to travel on snow-covered roads to a hotel just to find heat for our family).

It became an involuntary vacation. It was impossible to be productive, and at best hard to get any work done. In the end, it was a gift. I got a chance, long needed, to step away from the work and reflect. To relax and prioritize. Life is a lot like a neo-impressionist Pointillist painting. If we stand too close, it is nothing but random dots. Step away, and the picture becomes vividly clear.

Queens

For my first word, I confess I am stealing (with slight modification) Chris Brogan’s word of Kings. His words about behaving like a king really connected for me. He described it as the ability “to maintain poise and balance and charm and demeanor when dealing with life’s unpleasant moments.” I think for women it is even more important to behave regally. The level and intensity of mom blogger dramas I witnessed in 2009 is just unacceptable. In 2010, I’d love to see all of us as women rise above.

If not all women (hey, there will always be the fools who perpetrate this low-life behavior), let’s set the bar and hope others follow. I also think it’s important to command respect. We are professionals. Let’s act like it. (And yes, that includes insisting on being paid for time, consulting, marketing and any other work.) Let this be the year that the mainstream media runs out of mom blogger scandals to cover. You can get mad at journalists for ignoring the inspirational stories about the mom blogosphere and focusing on the negative. But the fact of the matter is, they can’t write negative stories if they don’t exist. Don’t create them, and ignore those who do.

Focus

This has always been my challenge. As a journalist, I had a writing coach who suggested coming up with one word that summarizes each news story. It was tremendously helpful, and has stuck with me for years. In fact, I thought of that lesson when I saw Chris Brogan’s list. I am one who tends to think of ten things at once, and operates best with several balls juggling. That is great for productivity, but bad for focus. In 2010, I want to work hard to prioritize and to determine what is worth my time. I did some of this in 2009, leaving About.com after seven years and despite it being a nice stream of income. Sometimes, you have to walk away from things, even important things, to give you time to focus on what’s more important. If it were easy, you would have walked away ages ago.

I am planning to sell some of the social networks that I have fully developed and that have nice Google rankings (PageRank 4 for both), but I don’t have time to grow: Dadosphere (which would be a great buy right now, as I think dad bloggers will be the next in thing) and PictureMyCamera, a social blog/social network for photography enthusiasts). Contact me if you’re interested in buying one, or taking over management for a share of the revenue.

It also means that I will be focusing my services. One issue with being a jane of all trades is that it’s tempting to offer all services. I am going to revamp my hire me page to focus on the things I really enjoy, and which provide a better return on time investment. While I like my SEO Makeover, it is very time-consuming. For things like that, I am looking at developing eBooks or online courses instead. With so many pursuits, some simply need to require less hands-on time. I get a lot of joy from speaking, training and mentoring, so that will be my focus.

Freedom

There’s one thing I learned from my unexpected time off in December. It’s that I don’t want to be tethered to work and social media all hours. Going off the grid is good for us all. Part of the reason I want to focus is to create more time. I spent the last month doing many things just for fun. I rediscovered reading. I can’t tell you the last time I read a fiction book just for the pleasure of it, but in December I read every book by Karen Chance and the entire Twilight series. Yes, those are books with absolutely no purpose whatsoever except entertainment. It was wonderfully indulgent.

I want freedom on a few levels. I want to earn more for less effort to create financial and lifestyle freedom. When I decided to go from seasoned career woman to work-at-home mom, that was my vision. As anyone who works from home knows, it can be dangerous if you are a workaholic. You end up doing nothing but work. I will not spend 2010 with my fingers glued to a keyboard.

I’d love to hear what three words will be yours for 2010. Share in comments or, if you do a post, be sure to share the link in comments. And thanks to Chris Brogan for the inspiration.

Image of blogging queen, © Mike Licht of NotionsCapital.com.

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About the author: Kelby Carr (522 Posts)

Kelby Carr is the founder and publisher of Type-A Parent. She also is the organizer of the Type-A Parent Conference. She is the author of Pinterest For Dummies and Pinterest Marketing For Dummies. You can follow her on Twitter at @typeamom and circle her on Google+.

 

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  1. Kimberly/Mom in the City

    January 1, 2010

    Chris Brogan is great, right? I love how much time you had to think about your 3 words. I haven’t narrowed down my three yet, so it’s fun taking a peek at others. Happy New Year!

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  2. Jill

    January 1, 2010

    Bigger, Bolder, Better.

    Thanks for posting about the three words, Kelby. I hadn’t heard of it before, and those three words were my automatic response. They surprise me, actually, but that’s a lesson in itself: be quiet and listen. And those are the real three words I’d like to live by:

    Be Quiet, Listen.

    Hope you’re feeling much better now.

    (Apologies if this comment form doesn’t take HTML…guess I’ll know in a second.)

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  3. Danielle @ ExtraordinaryMommy

    January 1, 2010

    I love the ‘three words’ – I have heard the idea a few times in the past week and am inspired to create a focus in my own world. I have a list a million miles long of things I would like to accomplish or change….but I know I need to prioritize. The words you have chosen are ideal.

    Wishing you the Happiest of New Years….

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  4. Kristie McNealy

    January 2, 2010

    Love it Kelby! I hope you have a fantastic 2010!

    I am completely scattered right now between waiting for the arrival of our new baby, my husband’s congressional campaign, homeschooling and all the new opportunities in blogging and consulting I’ve had since Type-A Mom.

    The first three words that come to mind for me are focus, discipline (for me, not the kids) and relaxation. I think I’m going to need all three to make it through the next year as a mom of four.

    Take care,
    Kristie

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  5. tricia mumby

    January 2, 2010

    Hey Kelby! This is great! I am going to focus on enjoying everything more. Being positive. Testing Karma.

    My three words are:

    Choose Happy. Play.

    Happy New Year to you!

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  6. Wendy

    January 2, 2010

    I love the explanation for Queens. Moms are having a harder time gaining respect in our society as it is (imho, from my own experience). Let’s leave the drama in ’09 and move forward to a better and brighter ’10.

    My three words for the year? Focus, connect, commit. Focus on my goals and what it’ll take to reach them (organization, energy, motivation). Connect more with my community, both online and IRL. Commit to following through.

    Good luck to all of us in the New Year!

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  7. Yona Williams/Priceless Writers

    January 2, 2010

    Great post. My three words are:

    Bullseye, patience and balance.

    1. Bullseye: My first instinct was to say ‘focus’ but I need something a little stronger. I need to hit the goals I set for myself with intensity.

    2. Patience: Good things come to those who wait… and I’d like to be more patience with people in general. Overall, patience helps build better relationships.

    3. Balance: For someone who works at home, I’m often like a chicken with her head cut off. I haven’t found that balance between work and relaxation where I embrace suitable work hours that decrease the potential for stress.

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  8. Yona

    January 2, 2010

    BTW – I LOVE the image you chose for this post!

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  9. Michele McGraw (ScrappinMichele)

    January 2, 2010

    Every year for the last few years, I have chose one word after seeing it on Ali Edward’s blog. I did see the post Chris wrote about choosing 3 also. I think that anytime we try to focus our efforts for the year, it’s a good thing whether we choose 1 or 3 words, it gives us focus.

    My word this year is basics. I wrote all about my word and plans on my blog.
    http://scrapsofmygeeklife.com/2009/12/31/pick-one-word-to-focus-your-efforts-in-2010/

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  10. Hollee

    January 2, 2010

    Hi, Kelby! I’m impressed with the way you’ve prioritized, and I love culling life down into simple nuggets, so the three-word approach works for me.

    Let’s see… I’m going to say balanced, focused, happy.

    Balanced is easy … I’m writing a book about work/life balance and modern motherhood (Good Enough is the New Perfect), yet it’s sapping the balance from my life. But I believe in seasons of balance. The first half of the year (before book deadline) will be less so. The second half, hopefully more balanced!

    Focused is so important right now. It is much more fun to dream of book marketing or create theme weeks for my work/life blog or get sucked into Twitter (which I need to do but less) … but I have a book to write on top of my full-time job as a law professor. Focus, focus, focus.

    Happy seems like such a simple word, but it is my intention for 2010. I have so much to be happy about, and I’m going to embrace it. One of my favorite bloggers, @mrschicken, wrote a fantastic post yesterday about 2010 being her year to live dangerously. This will be my year to live happily, I hope!

    Great post and thanks for all that you’re doing, Kelby. Really looking forward to meeting you in person at Blissdom and then again at Type-A:) -Hollee

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  11. Michele Good

    January 2, 2010

    Weird, I commented yesterday, but must of messed up somehow…I am totally with you on focus as one of my 3 words. My other two are present and true.

    1. Focus – trying to stay focused
    2. Present – enjoying the moment, living in the present not focusing on the past or the future
    3. True – being true to myself. Following my gut/heart and listening to the inner voice.

    Happy New Year.
    -Michele

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  12. Sky

    January 2, 2010

    Great post! I’m just one of the little people out there in the blogosphere…but this last year was really a learning experience. My 3 words:

    Knowledge – It is power. I’m starting my college career in 2 weeks *eek!*, but it’s more than that. I learn through everything I do. Each experience, each success and each fail. I hope to expand on that.

    Integrity – I can only control myself, my actions and efforts. Forget the drama. I’m living how I want to be treated and in that respect I treat others the same way.

    Healthy – Would I like to have the body I had when I was 19. You bet…but it’s not going to happen. Instead, I’m forgetting that skinny me and focusing on eating and living healthy.

    Here’s to 2010…my words are going up on the white board in my office. I’ll have them as a constant reminder all year.

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  13. Melanie @ The Healthy Hopeful

    January 2, 2010

    This is a great post, Kelby. I love your three words and you really inspired me to think of my own and write about them. I hope you’ll wander over and check them out when you have a chance. :) PS, I’m glad I found your blog – lots of good stuff here!!

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  14. Kimberly/Mom in the City

    January 2, 2010

    Okay, I’m back. My three words are angel, mindful and connection. I’ll be writing about the three on my blog next week. (It was so hard narrowing them down!)

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  15. Emily

    January 10, 2010

    Hi Kelby,

    First, WOW girl, you rock! I found your blog via the Blissdom site.

    I can relate to all three of Your Words for the new year.

    Hmmm.

    Mine are:

    PASSION – This year I would like to say no to anything that doesn’t inspire me, to give my time instead to things which move me. And this includes saying NO to checking my email for the millionth time and YES to playing Little People with my daughter for the millionth time, because being with my daughter MOVES me, and checking my email does not.

    MOMENTUM – I would like to move forward and build on the foundation that I’ve lain over the past few years in all areas: family, frienships, career. Slowly but surely.

    FUN – I want to be fun again. I was fun once, wasn’t I? Before I was too busy to be fun? I want my kids / husband / friends / family to say, “That EMILY, her house was a Mess but BOY was she FUN!”

    Thanks for the inspiring idea.

    Emily

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  16. LoveFeast Table

    January 14, 2010

    Luv your intentions!!! I have to ponder that and come up with three words too….but, it’s late, my glasses our scratched and I can barely make out the screen in front of me! ha! Maybe by the time I get to Blissdom I’ll have my three words down!! You can ask me then!!! :) ~Chris Ann

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  17. Chele

    January 9, 2011

    How did I miss this? I love it!!! You can do this! I have a phrase not single words, mostly due to my diagnosis recently it's Enjoy Life to the Fullest. :) I enjoy being online but I also enjoy spending time with my family… so I have to find a balance!

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