Does your marriage ever get the dull-drums?  We’ve been married for over seven years and every now and then we realize that we want to renew that “spark”.  Here is a list of over 50 ways that we have used to bring life back into our marriage over the years. Try doing one a day over the next month or so and see the effect it has on your relationship!


  1. Pick up a little snack for him at the store (or make him one) that he can take to work with him the next day.
  2. Cuddle while you watch a movie
  3. Warm a towel for him while he’s in the shower, so a hot towel is waiting for him instead of a cold bathroom.
  4. Sincerely thank him for the things he does for your family
  5. Write a brief love-note and stick it on his pillow or where he will find it easily
  6. Show them we are their fan by telling someone else something we like about our hubby’s, once in their hearing if possible, the other time to get us in the habit of saying and thinking great things about our Hubby’s
  7. Make your house a bit cleaner than normal, or spiffy it up in a special way.
  8. Hot Coco waiting for him when he gets home (assuming, it is cold out), maybe a iced drink if it is hot.
  9. Let your hubby know you love them while they are at work… a phone call, email, note with lunch, etc.
  10. Get up with the kids and let him sleep in on the weekend.
  11. Play footsie – dinner time can often be crowd control from opposite sides of the table. If you can’t play footsie, maybe sit next to each other if that is usual for you.
  12. Let him know something positive that someone said to you about your husband.
  13. Pick a 24hr period and try not to complain about anything to him during that time.
  14. Date night at home after you put the kids to bed early.
  15. Take out the trash or do “his” chore that day.
  16. Do something extra special to greet your Hubby when he gets home tonight. If you usually greet with a smile, add a smooching session, if you greet over the noise of the kids from the other room, meet him at the door, if you are wonder woman, add a favorite meal or something else that is different for you.
  17. make your husband laugh. get a good belly laugh out of him to get rid of the stress he’s been accumulating all day.
  18. Dig out, clean & wear the engagement ring. Shining Rings here we come!
  19. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
  20. Walk closer to them than normal or hold their eyes longer than normal in conversation
  21. Pick a book that interests both of you and take turns reading to each other.
  22. Give him a flower – as girls we so often get the flowers! Give him a turn!
  23. Give him a long foot rub.
  24. Play “your song” or other sappy songs that remind you of your early days together.
  25. Take a “kissing” picture together! Our pictures are from our wedding, we need new “together” ones!
  26. Wake him up right before the alarm goes off with kisses.
  27. Serve your hubby without expecting something in return
  28. Be quick to apologize if you have done something hurtful or inconsiderate.
  29. Say your vows to each other, maybe even in front of the kids.
  30. Make a love note jar with all the different reasons that you love them listed inside.
  31. Go for a long walk together.
  32. Make an extra effort to actively listen to him. Ask leading questions to get him talking about his day.
  33. Thinks of three reasons you are proud of him, let him know!
  34. Defend his decisions and actions to others, especially family or close friends.
  35. Sit shoulder to shoulder – no need for talking, just keep him company.
  36. Thank you husband for being a good example for your children and being the leader in your home.
  37. Ask him about his dreams & desires.
  38. Go out to his favorite restaurant.
  39. Have sex with him – without him begging you or complaining about it. Initiate!
  40. Get dressed sexy for him.
  41. Compliment his body in some way. Weight, eyes, lips, etc.
  42. Sex coupons – Do not be cheap here. He desires sex more than anything. Get creative.
  43. Encourage him to go out for an evening with the guys.
  44. Tell the kids one of the reasons that you fell in love with their dad, in front of him.
  45. Let him know a reason that he makes you feel safe. Men want to protect us.
  46. Ask him about a question that relates to his expertise or a hobby of his.
  47. Tell him all of the reasons that you respect him, not love him.
  48. Hang out with your husband while he is doing a task that serves the family. Such as fixing the car, hanging a light, repairing something, etc.
  49. Tell him you love him – it is amazing how important those three words are!
  50. Make his favorite dessert within his sight, wearing something just for him.

Rachel is mommy to three preschoolers and blogs about her kid’s activities and learning adventures at Quirky Momma.