As those with experience know, children with special needs can require extra help during the holidays. The lack of routine, novel situations and unexpected guests can throw off their equilibrium. Here are some suggestions that may help.
Allow the child to have as much of their routine as possible. A treasured stuffed animal by the child’s side can go a long way towards helping him feel centered in the hectic holiday rush. A beloved blankie can help a child who feels upset feel secure.
Parents like their children to look good, but remember that sensory issues can cause a child discomfort, which can lead to a meltdown. Compromise with clothes that look good, but feel good, too. Soft cottons, velours, satins are comfortable. Avoid tulle, nylon and netting. Not all children with special needs have a problem with these, but if yours does, sacrifice fashion for peace of mind for you both.
Limit holiday parties and try to keep to a regular bedtime.
Have familiar foods available for the child, amid all the other holiday choices.
If entertaining at home, help the child go through her toys and put away the most important ones. These are toys no one else can use. Another alternative is to set out toys in a common area that are okay to share.
Consider color-coding presents. Show the child which ones are his. This way, he doesn’t try to open up anyone else’s presents. Practice opening gifts and taking turns. Role play what to say as a thank you.
Let the child help with the decorations, but keep in mind that flashing lights and music can be difficult for a child with autism.
Find what the child enjoys and build upon it. Start a new tradition. Does he like a certain song? Make it part of your celebration.
Try to avoid taking the child shopping during this time of year. Crowds and noise can be a major trigger for kids with autism. If you must shop, stick to smaller stores away from the large metropolitan malls.
Consider reducing the amount of presents under the tree. Kids don’t care as much as parents do about the number of gifts. For the child with autism, who may have a limited attention span, set him up for success. Concentrate upon the fun of the gifts rather than the quantity.
The holidays can be a magical time. With a bit of planning, the holidays can be memorable and successful for your child.
photo copyright Thijs Knapp, used under cc.
Tina Cruz is a writer, wife and mother of three children. The two youngest children have high-functioning autism and the oldest has undiagnosed Asperger’s Syndrome tendencies. She advocates for autism awareness and education, as well as acceptance. She views autism as a growth process and the opportunity to connect parents for support as a privilege. She is the editor of the Special Needs channel here at Typeamom. Her personal blog can be found at Send Chocolate. You can email her at sendchocolatenow@gmail.com with questions or comments.
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