The Secret to Finding the Perfect Life Balance

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Imagine if I really had the secret to a perfect life balance? Imagine if there was such a thing as a “perfect balance” at all?

Like many other things in life, I don’t think there is a one-size-fits-all secret to achieving balance. And I have learned the hard way that there is no “perfect balance.” If there is and if you achieve it, you are a better person than me…or you’re a robot.

I’m a pretty prepared and capable person. I always have a plan, a list, deadlines and responsibilities, and I rarely drop the ball. For much of my life I wanted that perfect balance; the feeling that everything in my life was lined up straight, organized and making complete sense. I thought I was “close” to achieving that at one point in my life. Then I had kids, and have yet to regain that same sense of control.

I have learned that, for me, the only way to achieve balance — not a perfect balance, just a balance that prevents you from toppling off the top of the mountain — is by accepting imperfection and imbalance.

I strive toward an acceptable level of imbalance. In fact, I have certain levels of imbalance that are okay for me. I’m happy if I get my top priority work items done and roll the rest to tomorrow so I can play a game with my kids before they go to bed. Or, I let myself off the hook, even though I didn’t get the laundry done or the house cleaned because it was a really productive day. And some days, I just throw up my hands and tell myself that tomorrow will be better.

Eventually, the imbalance becomes consistent. It’s expected and accepted. I know that I will not reach perfection. I accept that and look to the next desirable outcome. Once I have shifted my level of expectations, the imbalance becomes my balance. For me, it’s about routine, flexibility, give-and-take and acceptance.

Of course, all of this may be my way of making excuses when I fall short or don’t get that last thing done. But if it helps me stay on course, even when it feels like I am going to drop one of the many balls I have in the air, isn’t that kind of what balance is?

I’d love to hear your opinion. What do you think about life balance? Do you try to achieve it?

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I'm a small business enthusiast, entrepreneur, writer, speaker, team builder and consultant who has a passion for learning, creating opportunities for collaboration, and sharing knowledge. On a typical day, you can find me sharing small business tips, advice and resources on, the Small Business Bonfire, Twitter and Facebook, while juggling my three kids, ages 4, 3 and 1.



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    Laura Baylor

    March 16, 2011

    I try to achieve it in terms of doing some things each day for my family, work and for myself. I try for all of my days to include exercise for myself and quality time with my family. As a result sometimes things like housework go undone and I’ve decided I”m fine with that type of balance because I want to focus on things I find most important.

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      Alyssa Gregory

      March 16, 2011

      Exactly, Laura. I think the key is knowing what your priorities are and then letting the rest go when necessary. And I vote for letting laundry and housework fall to the bottom of the list! :-)

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