We all know that family vacations aren’t always as fun and carefree for the moms. Don’t you think you’ve earned some vacation time on your own? Lay that mommy guilt at the door and take a couple of days to relax and refresh yourself. I’ve got some tips and tricks on how you can plan a great girls only getaway with your friends!

For the past three years I’ve been taking at least one long weekend to reconnect with old friends and enjoy some kid-free time. Each year was a different location and with different people but the results were always the same…one happy mommy.

1. Set your ground rules. This sounds a little harsh but you’ll want everyone in the group to be on the same page. Our group didn’t allow any kids or husbands. At all. Do you make an allowance for nursing mothers? It is all up to you—but once you set the rules, stick to them. Here are the rules that we use:

  • No kids
  • No husbands
  • No whining
  • Motto: We can do whatever we want to do! (except for whining, of course!)

2. Set a date. Try to plan your date well in advance. This gives you an opportunity to dream about all the fun you’re going to have (a big part of the excitement) and get some of the best travel deals.

3. Pick a location. The first girls weekend I went on we chose Breckenridge, Colorado. It was a halfway point for those of us that lived farthest away. The next year we picked Las Vegas because we could fly there relatively inexpensively. Those were two very different dynamics but they worked well for us. You’ll want to make sure that your location can provide you with everything you feel you need for a rejuvenating getaway.

4. Make a list of things to do. Do a little research on the area. Are there some must-sees? Make a list and then be prepared to ditch the list at a moment’s notice. Why? Because you can! You’re in charge of what happens (or doesn’t) on your weekend.

5. Gather your friends. Who do you want to come along? I, personally, have no problem traveling alone, with one, or twelve friends. I’m bound and determined to have a good time no matter the company. I have been very lucky in the fact that my traveling companions have been superb! Remember—a lot of the fun is in the anticipation! Once you have your travel group, set up a way to communicate and get to know each other better.

6. HAVE FUN! Your weekend away will be what you make of it. The most important tip of all is to enjoy it and have fun! Oh yeah, and invite me!